Things husbands say

Throughout the last nine months of trying, my husband has had a variety or responses to my news that we're not pregnant yet.

For a while it was his standard "life is not a race" which just made me more upset, because I know it's not a race! In an emotional moment I broke down and told him he can't say that to me any more, I know we're not in a race, I just want to be pregnant and have a baby! That I need him to say "it'll be ok, it'll happen one day soon."

Since then he's been pretty good and much more supportive. He's such a smart man, but sometimes he just can't tell when to be supportive or what to say to be supportive!

This month he's been absolutely awesome. I think being able to show him my chart has helped. Last month was my first month of charting and it showed that we were a bit off with timing everything. This month I had my chart open on my laptop when he came home from work, as I was adding information to it, and he was interested in it, asking lots of questions.

So I found it very sweet last week, when he was talking in his sleep and asked "Did we make a baby last night?"

Then on Wednesday I was again adding in my days temperature and symptoms into my chart when he came home from work. (I take my temperature early in the morning but often don't get a chance to enter in the information until the afternoon.) He peered over my shoulder and asked if the chart could tell if I was pregnant yet. I had to laugh and tell him that it's far too early to know. He was so disappointed when I said it'd probably be ten days to a fortnight before I'd know.

Welcome to the two week wait.  Two weeks of analysing every little symptom and driving yourself crazy!