While I make the trek up to see my parents at least once a month, it's pretty rare they come down here. It makes me kind of sad because they often make the 20 min drive to see my brother but we live just a bit too far away. Dad is often down here on the coast, he's got a boat and is an avid fisherman. And I've offered to drive up and meet him at the boat ramp he goes to but he never calls to let me know when he's on the coast.
I love my family and I'm quite close to all of them. I also love entertaining, I'm quite happy to organise and host a lunch or dinner. But our apartment is just too small. Neither my parents nor my brother really like the details of organising a get together and it's always the same. Barbecue with steak, chicken skewers and rissoles, with mums potato and pasta salad. I'm seriously sick to death of the same food each time we have a casual lunch. I always bring the dessert and like to change it up, try different things.
But tomorrow they're all coming down here! We're going out for lunch at one of my favourite restaurants at the marina. It's a belated birthday lunch out to celebrate my birthday from last month. Then we'll all come back here for coffee and if they feel like it, cake! Sometimes we order dessert sometimes we have dessert at home. Either way I've made a cake and if we have dessert at lunch then I'll send some home with them for later.
I'm really excited. I've got the cake cooling on the bench and I've been tidying up the house. I just have to fill and ice the cake, vacuum the carpet and do a quick tidy up of the main bathroom.
I've made sure to hide any signs of ttc, I've hidden my prenatal vitamins in a box in one of the cupboards above the fridge. My opks usually sit out on the shelf in the bathroom and I've packed them up and hidden them in my dresser drawer. A sweet online friend sent me a card wishing me lots of baby dust, I've had that displayed on my fridge and took that down and put it away in the filing cabinet. I've put all my pathology referrals away in the filing cabinet too. And in the morning I'll make sure my thermometer isn't sitting on my bedside table and instead is put away in the bathroom drawer.
I hate keeping ttc a secret from my family. But I know if I don't they'll be asking if I'm pregnant in every phone call and email. My family is hopeless with secrets. A secret will last all of three minutes before someone calls and shares the news. They mean well, but they're huge gossips! And once a secret is told to my parents or brother and sis in law, it doesn't take long before that secret filters down to the extended family who live interstate and family friends.
A few of our friends do know we're ttc. One is couple, R &R who we see once every few months (he works away two weeks at a time, then home two weeks), they've got a 18 month old daugther who is the sweetest little thing! And the wives of my husbands Lan friends know as I confided in one of them at the last big get together on Australia Day. I knew that they'd been down the ivf path and I just had a couple of questions about how long they'd been trying before before seeing a doctor.
But all our other family and friends? They're being kept in the dark. We are about the last of all of our friends to start a family, but we were also one of the last couples to get married too.
I don't like keeping this secret, it's not in my nature to keep something big like this quiet. I just keeping hoping that I'll get a bfp soon and then we'll be able to share the wonderful news with everyone.
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