Not our month.. and car talk

I had a pretty big temperature drop this morning and tonight I've had some spotting. I'm pretty sure that this isn't our month. It means we won't have a 2013 baby.

And surprisingly I'm ok with that this month. We only got the one chance during my fertile time. Sometimes that happens. My husband working super long hours and was quite stressed with work. I had a migraine which left me in pain and just out of sorts. There were just things against us. Life just got in the way of ttc and our usual every second day routine during my fertile times.

While it does rule our a 2013 baby, it also means we won't get the comments about having a baby around New Years and how it's too close to Christmas. A lot of people just don't have a filter, I found that out when I had my 7dpo blood work.

My parents are those kinds of people. No filter at all, just loud speak first, think second. I still remember when I turned 29 and my dad telling me that I was now the same age that he was when I was born. And that if we were going to have a family we'd better get to it.

He's also the same person who commented that a friend of mine left it too long between her kids. She does have an age gap of six years, but it took three years for her to fall pregnant with her second baby. 

I'm expecting my period to be here tomorrow. Which throws a spanner in the works of having my last lot of blood work on CD1, as all the labs are closed tomorrow. Oh well, a CD2 blood test on Monday will just have to do. The tests are just for my regular GP, last month when I saw her, she explained that after we've had these tests done then she can give us a referral to a fertility specialist.

But before I have this last blood test done, I need to go and see my parents. You see, our car is playing up a bit. My father is a mechanic and my parents own a garage. So tomorrow I'm going to drive up to see my parents, drop off my little green car and pick up their spare car.

We're extremely lucky that dad looks after our car (as well as my brother's car and my sister in law's car). I've always driven older cars and my car is getting to the age when we usually replace it. It's not dangerous, it's quite safe and there's no major problems with it. There's just lots of little things that need fixing or replacing. And in the last two days another little issue has popped up. It's reaching the point where Dad will probably tell me that it's time to retire our little green car. If not now, then in the next few months.

In the past I've just given mum and dad a price range and said that it has to be a four door sedan, manual and can't be yellow. Then dad has found a few cars for me to test drive and I choose one and we buy it. (I know my husband should be part of the car buying process but early on in our relationship we struck a deal. I look after car stuff, he looks after all the computer stuff. And it works well!) But this time, because this will be the car we put baby seats in and will probably last us for about five or so years I want something a bit different.

I'm going to be a bit more picky so it might take us a bit longer to find something for the right price. I don't want the car seat anchors in stupid spots (two of our friends  have a hatch backs, and in both, the car seat anchor points are in the back of the hatch. Meaning that the straps are in the way and you lose most of the boot space).

Preferably I want something a little bit bigger than our current small four door sedan. I don't want an SVU or a wagon, one of those will just not fit in our car space. But I also want another manual car, I know automatics are much more common in the medium and larger sized sedans but I've never owned an auto and I much prefer the fuel economy of a manual. 

So if dad is going to start looking for cars that I can test drive, I'm going to have to tell him and mum that we're trying to start a family. Otherwise he'll try and talk me into getting a smaller car again.  

But by telling mum and dad, that means that every one in my family will know that we're trying within a week. I've avoided telling them because it opens us up to pressure and prying questions. But it might be time to tell them. Especially if we'll be getting the referral to the fertility specialist soon.

It might be good to actually be able to talk to mum about Dr's appointments and things. Mum was the one who came with me when I had my laparoscopy to remove cysts in 2002. So she might even remember some things I've forgotten about the surgery and what the specialist said back then.