Easter is over for another year. We saw my family first. Over the last few years my family has been getting together to do Easter on the Saturday. It's just what works best for everyone. Some years my brother has to work or is on call on the Sunday. This year he's on call on today (Monday) and my sister in law has to work on today too, but I think she said she'll be working from home.
It works out well for us too, it means that on Easter Sunday we go to Easter lunch with my husbands family. They tend to do a much bigger lunch with lots of chocolates and eggs. Although, over the years they've started to scale back the chocolate. Which is good, because when you receive over a kilogram of chocolate, it's way too much!
I was not looking forward to either Easter lunches. I was dreading my family lunch because a few weeks ago when I was up seeing my parents and getting my car serviced, I called in to see my brother on the way home.
It was February last year when I gave my brother the heads up that my husband and I would probably be going to start trying for a baby in a few months. He's the only one I told and it was purely so he could tell his girlfriend. I love his girlfriend, she's like a sister to me! (She's the sister in law I made the owl cake for.) But my brother can be a bit of a jerk and he's a bit afraid of commitment. While he and my sister in law have been together for 13 years now and own a house together, they aren't married or even engaged. My sister in law would love to be married but my brother doesn't want it. I know it's caused her heartache in the past, so I wanted her to know in advance that my husband and I were ttc. I didn't want it to be a shock or surprise, I've been in that position of wanting something badly and my partner not being on the same page, and having to feign excitement when inside all I want to do is cry.
So when I saw them last month, my brother asked if hubby and I were trying, but all I could say was "I'm not talking about that" and change the subject. I was expecting the subject to come up again at Easter. My family is loud, obnoxious and secrets last for maybe 5 seconds. They're also not afraid of ganging up on someone to get the gossip or a juicy secret. But it didn't happen this Easter. Instead mum decided to focus on my sister in law, telling her that while the grand-pugs are cute, one day she expects grandchildren!
But there was still one more family lunch to get through. My husbands family are large, he's one of three siblings. And family lunches involve his immediate family, his grandparents, aunt and uncle, cousins and partners and the cousins children.
I don't always see eye to eye with my husbands grandfather. And true to form, within two minutes of arriving, he'd told me I was feeding my husband too much, implying that I'm making him fat. He usually then goes on to tell me that I should be working full time or giving him great-grandsons, but he skipped that part this time.
But it wasn't the grandfather in law I was dreading. It was seeing my husbands youngest cousin, his girlfriend and their newborn baby girl. I wasn't sure how I'd go seeing the baby. She was born exactly 9 months after we started trying. My husbands cousin and partner were just one of the many couples we know who have fallen pregnant since we've started trying.
But I was fine! I even held her a few times. She's such a tiny little thing. I came close to tearing up once, but managed to stop myself. I think it helped that there were a few dramas going on with my other sister in law (my hubby's sister) and I was trying to talk to my mother in law about it without anyone else catching on to our conversation.
I was also fully expecting the "babies are catching! You'll be next!" from my in laws, but that wasn't said either!
And now I can breathe a sigh of relief. Easter is over, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and the rude comments were kept to a minimum.
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